I was listening to a radio show, possibly Radio Lab, the other day while running errands. There was a conversation about fate with a quantum physicist who used the example of whether choosing chocolate or vanilla ice cream determines your path in life. Of course, he denied the plausibility of this concept.
I made some facetious remark on my FB feed about how the discussion only made me crave ice cream.
Geez, that is so not true!
Days, even weeks, later and I am still thinking about it.
Let’s say you chose chocolate, and ended up spilling some on your shirt. This causes you to take it to the dry cleaner the next day.
Going to the dry cleaner changes the course of your life because you end up running into someone or having a conversation that makes you inspired to look into <x>, and you end up <changing your career, meeting the next person with whom you have a relationship, or trying something new/old/xx> that changes your current direction.
Then again, you could have chosen vanilla, not had any mishaps and continued with your plans. Does this change the course of your life, or are you following a pre-established script?
I don’t have the answers. Nor do I really have any beliefs around it.
I had a conversation with a co-worker who told me that she feels that “things happen for a reason.” I replied that I don’t believe that, but I do believe that “things turn out, one way or another,” which to me is realistic and non-committal. However, my co-worker felt we were saying the same thing. I disagree because I think her point of view implies some kind of faith, and mine reflects reality. I guess if faith is your reality then they could possibly be conceived as the same perspective. But faith, especially blind faith, is not my reality.
I’ve had a week or so to ponder this, and I also realized that Fate and Fatal are similar sounding words.
Interestingly, the full definition of fate is about the end or final outcome:
1 : the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do : destiny
3 a : final outcome b : the expected result of normal development <prospective fate of embryonic cells> c : the circumstances that befall someone or something <did not know the fate of her former classmates>
I’m not really sure where I’m going with this post. I’m still mulling it over. I will admit that I believe that certain things will happen, like being in a relationship again, and I do believe in the power of intention. I also think that once you start thinking about things, you start to notice events or occurrences that relate to your thoughts. They would still be there otherwise, it’s just that you happen to notice them since they’re on your mind. Then some people might call it a crazy coincidence, but it’s really just a matter of observation.
Who knows? I just had to get these thoughts out of my mind and onto (virtual) paper.
Vogue Knitting Live NYC 2016 is this weekend!
I can’t believe it’s been a whole year since VKL NYC 2015! The Knitting with Beads course with Laura Nelkin has changed my life. I have been spending the year teaching myself beading, and transferring much of my spending to beading supplies.
And guess what?
I am not going to VKL NYC this year! Instead I am saving my pennies to go to a beading fair next weekend.
My goal remains the same – to combine knitting and beading in unusual ways. I’ve been spending this year learning basic beading techniques to understand how it works…so that I can rework it.
Did I mention that beading is fun? And more immediate gratification than knitting! But there are so many choices, and really, a lot of thinking and processing. And stringing is not as easy as it looks. Sure, putting beads on a string is easy, but the design, and making sure the beads fall correctly takes longer than I expected. It’s all very enjoyable.
December is a good month for reading. For those of us not preoccupied with holiday activities, there is plenty of time to read (bead, knit, etc.) and bookstore sales to help feed the hunger.
The second half of December is very quiet in my office. A lot of people take this time off, which provides those of us still at work the opportunity to catch up on the little tasks that just never get done. However, enough is enough, and I only worked two days this week. I would love that to be my new norm. 2 work days each week, but full time pay. That would be nice!!
I think a lot of people were reading this month because I received 5 books from my library holds list. The Marriage of Opposites by Alice Hoffman didn’t even make it to this month’s Reading list. I just knew I wouldn’t get through the other books, so I re-entered its Hold line.
Slade House by David Mitchell had been on my To Read list, and LD gave it to me as a holiday gift. Its reviews referred to it as a haunted house story, so I did not want to read it before bed! I spent two hours one afternoon to read it. Among the many reviews –
“An eerie haunted house tale that takes as much from quantum mechanics as from traditional supernatural lore.”
Dean Koontz, #1 New York Times bestselling author
I read it in one sitting because I knew if I put it down, it would be unlikely that I would pick it up again. The characters were not really developed, except perhaps the Slade House inhabitants; I would not recommend it, but I’m glad I read it so I can take it off my list!
|Stringing, Winter 2016||Magazine||Good|
|Betsy Beads||Betsy Hershberg||Thumbs Up|
|How to be Both||Ali Smith||So far so good|
|Black Box Thinking: Why Most People Never Learn from Their Mistakes--But Some Do||Matthew Syed||Only a little way in|
|Slade House||David Mitchell||2 stars|
|1,000 Foods to Eat Before You Die: A Food Lover's Life List||Mimi Sheraton||Downloaded a Sample - on the fence about next step|
|Season of Salt and Honey||Hannah Tunnicliffe||Not for me (see below)|
|Four Funerals and a Wedding||Jill Smolowe||What was I thinking?|
|The Rosie Project||Graeme Simsion||Ugh|
|100 Days of Happiness||Fausto Brizzi||Not for me (see below)|
|The Improbability of Love||Hannah Rothschild||3 stars|
I’ve really just started How to Be Both, but it seems to be somewhat similar in taking an older painting and seeing how it re-introduces itself in modern life: “How to be both is a novel all about art’s versatility. Borrowing from painting’s fresco technique to make an original literary double-take, it’s a fast-moving genre-bending conversation between forms, times, truths and fictions. There’s a renaissance artist of the 1460s. There’s the child of a child of the 1960s. Two tales of love and injustice twist into a singular yarn where time gets timeless, structural gets playful, knowing gets mysterious, fictional gets real – and all life’s givens get given a second chance.”
I believe I was undergoing some unconscious need for grief counseling or moving on or something this month, when I selected Season of Salt and Honey, Four Funerals and a Wedding, and 100 Days of Happiness. Okay, yes for this theory with Four Funerals and a Wedding which is blatantly described as “With humor and quiet wisdom, and with a lens firmly trained on what helped her tolerate and rebound from so much sorrow, she offers answers to questions we all confront in the face of loss, and reminds us that grief is not only about endings it’s about new beginnings.” I only got this as a sample, because I hate trite sentimentality like “not only about endings it’s about new beginnings.” I think I knew I wouldn’t like it, but somehow couldn’t resist. Then, Season of Salt and Honey was from my library’s Holds list. By the time the book’s in my queue, I’ve forgotten what it’s about or why I wanted to read it. Given my recent trip to Italy, I can see why I might have been attracted to this novel: “A NOVEL OF LOVE, GRIEF AND ANTIPASTI.” However, it starts out at the Italian equivalent of a shiva for the main character’s fiance. That was enough for me. Done. Book over. Finally, I don’t know what I was thinking when I put 100 Days of Happiness on my account as a Hold. “What would you do if you knew you only had 100 days left to live? For Lucio Battistini, it’s a chance to spend the rest of his life the way he always should have—by making every moment count” drew me in for some reason. When DDSO was undergoing chemotherapy, he sent emails to his friends about his experiences. This book reminded me of that. I definitively closed the book and said if I wanted to read this, I would look for those emails. Enough said. No thanks.
I downloaded a sample of Mimi Sheraton’s 1,000 Foods to Eat Before You Die: A Food Lover’s Life List. (I like using the word “sample” with this book because it always makes me smile thinking about getting a sample of each food!) I perused the first chapter, which is centered on English and Scottish food. As one of my friends said, English food is not even supposed to be good – why is that included?! Maybe the author was starting off with the simpler foods in life – like cheddar cheese and clotted cream. Anyway, I think it might be fun to have this book and check off foods as I have them. I haven’t quite decided if this is what I want to do. Maybe a library book version next?